Let's Talk About Feminism

Thursday, 31 January 2019


NEW SERIES: THE F-WORD

A QUICK CHAT ABOUT THE MODERN FEMINIST MOVEMENT

It's no secret that in society today the feminist movement receives a lot of criticism. A LOT. Whenever the topic is raised a Mexican-wave of eye-rolls, sighs and disappointed stares begins. Men, women and people of every gender have heard about the modern feminist movement - it's mentioned on our screens, in our newspapers and books, slogan tees and express artworks - feminism has a voice in every aspect of our modern society. And nobody's questioning whether that's a good thing. But the constant criticism the movement gets, the degrading image of angry female feminists and dominating media spreading messages about feminazi's are all wrong. That is not feminism. I want to try my best and explain what it is and what it means to me in this new series of blog-posts all about the f-word.

First off - there is no one set view of feminism. The F-word means different things to different people of every gender and I want to share what it means to me and help share the right image of what a feminist really is.


Society today loves offering up criticism to the feminist movement. The main reason of course, being that people feel like women are being angry hypocrites and are demanding to be treated better than men (the term 'special treatment' being thrown around too much). This is not the case I promise. The women that are running around screaming 'all women are better than men' and blasting this message across social media are not feminists.

Put simply: feminists are anyone that want women to have the same rights a man does. This is where a lot of people ask the question, 'didn't women do that in the 1920's?' And yeh. They did. But today's feminist movement is about so much more than rights from the state. It's about fighting against stereotypes, oppressive representation and double standards. It's about everyday women aspiring to be something more than a pretty face or a housewife.


For example, if a woman slaps another woman or man it's thrown away as a passionate and perhaps even sassy move, but for a man to slap a woman is a fierce crime and should be punished severely. Like I said earlier - double standards. Women deserve the same type of punishment and the same type of social treatment a man receives for abusing a women. This might seem against the point, right? Isn't feminism supposed to make women's lives better? And in a strange way, this example does that. By receiving the same punishment the woman is not only being treated as an equal, but she is no longer being treated differently on a matter because she is seen as weaker and (in this case) not having the strength to actually hurt a man.
This applies to all double standard that exist between men and women too. Something as simple as a woman should pay the bill whilst on a date (okay so I prefer the idea of halves but personal choices). Typically a heterosexual woman doesn't offer to pay for the meal or drinks on a date because well...the man is in charge, the bread-winner, the superior.
Oh and if a woman is allowed to reject a man because of the way he looks, shouldn't a man be able to do the same? If feminists are asking for equal right and treatment, shouldn't a man be able to reject a woman for her looks? Again, it might not seem like the rosy idea of feminism, but it's the truth.
If I am a feminist and I'm asking for equal rights - I need to not be asking for special treatment, but for the nitty, gritty truth of equality.


The issue of rape culture is one of the things I'm most passionate about. Feminist or not - this gets me every time. Rape culture is not normal and it is not okay. Frankly, you have to be a bit of an idiot not to realise this. Men, women, people of all genders can be raped and feminists fights for every person to face up to the fact that rape culture is not right. Yes, there are numerous laws against rapists but as a society we don't do enough to discourage it from the very start. Slut-shaming upsets me so much and I a whole post on slut-shaming will be posted within the next few months. Because AAAH. Let's get this straight - nobody is every asking for it by the way they are dressed or their actions. Making jokes about rape or even telling a victim of rape they are lying is only further enforcing the idea that rape is not a problem and the victims are seeking attention.


The pay gap. THE PAY GAP. You might have been living under a rock if you hadn't realised about the drastic pay gap between men and women that has come to light in certain professions in recent years. Equal pay is something feminists fight for on a daily basis. And no, this isn't about women being lazy and wanting more money for less work. The movement supports women who are doing the EXACT same job a man is doing, but receiving less money. The BBC has a generator at the bottom of this article where you can type in a company name and see the reported gender pay gap. Take a few minutes and just have a cheeky scroll: https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/business-43668187


Oh also - fun fact, men and woman are built differently. So when a woman asks you to open a jar or help with some DIY or carry a sofa up a staircase (Friends reference anyone?), she's not doing it because of some out-dated gender role. She's doing it because not only is she tired of your sexist whining, but also due to sexual dimorphism (google it) she just might not be able to open it. She's built for birthing children not opening stubborn jam jars. (I know women can open jars by the way it was just an example calm down.)

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So please, stop banishing the feminist movement. Men are not the enemy here, nobody is. Cheers.

Ohhhhh so that was my first post in my new series on Feminism: The F-Word. And it might not be the first new series you see arrive on my blog this year.....

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Lots of love,
Grace
xox

38 comments:

  1. lovely post, Grace !! Looking forward to the new series :)) xx

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  2. It's interesting to think about equality. I think we keep getting closer and closer and that's a good thing. Yet we don't want to be all the same either...
    Lovely photos Grace Louise
    XOXO
    Jodie
    www.jtouchofstyle.com

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    1. I completely agree Hun, we are working towards equality but there's so much more that needs to be done! x

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  3. I love this! Beautifully written and something that (as you know) I'm very passionate about. I can't wait for the rest of series!

    You look stunning in those photos as usual xxx

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  4. A well written post. I can feel your passion behind it Grace! I'm all in for feminism. The pay gap is still very annoying! I don't mind paying for the bill out right (as it makes me feel equally as powerful, that i'm able to) I'm very modern...I even open my own car door too lol. Great post Grace : ) xo

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    1. Aw Hun thank you so much for the lovely comment! I love hearing stories like these, you're so sweet to share babe :) x

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  5. Lovely post, can’t wait for the rest of the series, you’re an icon xxx
    Alice x

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  6. An important and hot topic! I feel like we're making steps towards the right direction but I wonder if we'll ever come to an agreement on whose idea of "equality" is right

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    1. I completely agree Hun, simply put I believe politically and socially we should all be equal but the term 'equality' is such a broad term and is thrown about so much you're right - it can definitely appear misleading x

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  7. Great post.
    xx
    https://theonethattravels.wordpress.com/

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  8. Such a great blog post. It is so important to keep talking about this!

    Danielle xx
    https://www.fashionbeautyblog.co.uk/

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  9. I really like how you mention there's no one set way of viewing, perceiving or explaining feminism - wise words girl! Hope you're having a lovely weekend so far :)

    aglassofice.com x

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    1. Aw thank you so much girl! Hope you're having a lovely day too x

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  10. Great words, Grace Louise! I see people focussing on giving women equality, and in some cases, belittling men while doing so. That's not really equal at all! I'm not a feminist myself- there are so many aspect to this that I'm still learning before I dare to say that I'm one- but that point about rape culture shocked me. I didn't realize it was part of feminism! Thanks for sharing babe.

    Anna
    Annaxiu.blogspot.com

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    1. Thank you so much for reading! Declaring yourself as a feminist can seem pretty daunting, but it's such a huge topic I'd just recommend you spend time researching, learning and listening :) x

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  11. I agree with so many of these things! Feminism is such a big topic that I find it difficult to tackle, so thank you for opening up the conversation :) Most simplistically, to me, feminism means equality of all people -Audrey | Brunch at Audrey's

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    1. I completely agree Audrey thank you so much for such a lovely comment as always! x

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  12. Very well said, you are an inspiration!

    Marie
    The Flower Duet

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    1. Aw wow that's so kind of your to say Marie thank you so much!! :)

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  13. I love the way you wrote this, but it's so true both sexes are as important as eachother and we're not men bashing xx

    Gemma • Gemma Etc . ❤️

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  14. yasss!!! love the flowers! And love all the yellow!
    xo Beckerman Girls
    www.BeckermanBlog.com

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  15. I don't want to point fingers, but I think why some people are fed up or annoyed with "feminism" it's because it has been associated as a brand for skinny or gorgeous or both that are white girls. I don't want to sound negative but celebrities like Taylor Swift made it a brand so for some people, they forgot or missed what it really means :(

    xx Alyssa | STYLE VANITY

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    1. I completely agree Hun, feminism gets so much bad rep in the media and can be presented as something it just isn't! Feminism is a movement that can and is supported by all people of all backgrounds and people who use feminism as a brand or way to make money for personal gain aren't supporting the movement as they should be or helping the people who need it!! x

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  16. More people need to realize that feminism benefits men and women! But I agree- great article!

    -Anna // https://theyoungeclectic.com

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    1. Aw wow thank you so much for the lovely comment! x

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