What Is Self Care? || & How To Practice It Daily

Monday, 5 August 2019

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Seriously. Queer Eye is the best thing ever and pretty soon I'll probably end up doing on a whole post just ranting about how much I love this show. But that day is not today - instead today I'm talking about one thing the Fab Five from Queer Eye LOVE to talk about in every single episode: self care. This has become a really massive topic recently and people seem to be searching for new methods of self care and the reasoning behind it every day. So I thought I'd help you all out and write a post dedicated to this strange new phenomenon (lucky you).

What is 'Self Care'?
I'm guessing some of you might be thinking that self care is just a term made up by millennials to have an excuse to splash out on expensive trainers and not empty the dishwasher because they're too busy pampering themselves as part of a nightly so-called 'self care routine.' And yes, I can see where you're coming from. But for me, self care is about taking a few minutes out of your day, maybe when you're getting ready in the morning or tidying your room before bed, to just check in with yourself and reflect on the day ahead, the one that's just been and how you're feeling. It's about looking after yourself when you feel down and caring for yourself always.

Why is it a 'thing'?
I know it sounds ratherrr pretentious and stupid the first time you hear the phrase, but after a little though hopefully you begin to realise it's pretty important. The idea of 'self care' has flooded our media recently: newspapers, magazines, books, Youtube videos and Instagram posts are all being dedicated to the topic. Some might call it the 'Queer Eye Effect' others might realise that I just came up with this term and it's probably not the case. Either way self care is a huge topic at the moment for several reasons. Firstly, this big ol' world we live in has got hella busy in the last few years, ya know, technology and politics and working 24/7 because house prices are through the roof (pun not intended). There are hundreds of new professions these days (like blogging) that can be a 24/7 thing, there's no boss telling you to log off and go home, if you want it to it can be the first thing you do when you wake up and the last thing you do before you go to bed.
Some might say this has created a generation of workaholics, others might disagree but let's not get into that right now, where we just don't know how to log off (literally and mentally) and we just want to keep going. This is, of course, massively unhealthy and may be one of the causes for mental health problems such as anxiety.
So to sum up, it's a 'thing' because in this hectic world of screens and late-night shifts, we often neglect our mental and physical health over work and family. We don't take time for ourselves anymore, and we need to.

So what do I have to do exactly?
What do you have to do? Have you not been listeningggg? You have to look after yourself physically and mentally all the time, every single day of every single week. At the end of the day you are the only YOU there will ever be - so be a cracking good YOU. (Is this making sense?)

This all sounds ratherrr selfish Grace?
Excuse me but self care and self love is not selfish that's the whole point! We all have experienced our relationships deteriorating when we feel down or are struggling. Surely it's more important to look after yourself then let your well-being going doing the drain?? Come on people, it's practically science.

When is self care most important?
ALL THE TIME, but especially during busy times like back to school, exam seasons, busy times at work. I know in the next few weeks a lot of us are heading back to school and this time can be massively stressful (new classes, new people, all that jazz), but also hella exciting (buying new stationary is the answer to your struggle I promise). So look after yourself! And if you've got nothing else to go on: (apart from new highlighters) preparation is the answer.

How can I actually do this thing then?
Well I'm glad you've asked because there are a million and one different ways to practise this 'self care' thing. I've come up with a little list of some of my faves:
1. Simplify your schedule: a busy and hectic schedule for some can be the ultimate trigger for stress. So cut out the unnecessary give yourself a date night off each week with your favourite person, schedule in an hour of reading every few days, swap in fourty-five minutes to watch your favourite Netflix show (Queer Eye anyone?) Take time in your schedule for you.
2. Unplug: I know right? It's not like you've heard this piece of advice A MILLION TIMES. Either way I'm gunna give it to you again. Excessive screen time doesn't do a lot for you (she says writing a blog post on her laptop), so read a flipping book or workout or cook or clean - do something productive that isn't making it to the end of your Instagram feed (which I'm pretty sure is impossible anyway.)
3. Gratitude List: A little cringe but when you're feeling especially down and hopeless take the time to make a list of everything you're grateful for in your life. It can be as little as Sam Fender's new song (check it out if you haven't) or as big as a specific relationship.
4. Declutter: seriously get rid of the rubbish you don't need. Give it to someone who does need it.
5. Sleep: seriously. Get a good night's sleep.
6. Treat Yourself: ah, here come the selfish millenials. But seriously, treat yourself. Buy that pair of shoes (I'd love a pair of Adidas Stan Smiths if anybody's buying haha), book that holiday, buy that ice cream. You don't need to spend masses, treating yourself can be spending quality time with someone you like, buying fresh flowers, meditating, reading, DANCINGGGG (alone to banging tunes with nobody judging).

Is there an easier way to do it it sounds complicatedddd?
I promise you it's not complicated. It's simple: take time for yourself because you're great. I think so, I'm sure plenty of other people do to. Even if you don't really realise it.
Some days you might have to be like 'sorry I can't meet up right now' or 'sorry I can't do that right now.' And you're not being selfish, you're taking an evening for yourself. (By no means just flake out on all your friends and family and commitments, that's not what I'm going for here.)
If it seems that much of a challenge set some goals for yourself, the start of a new academic year is the perfect time to set yourself goals and work towards them. Check in with yourself every so often to see how you're going with them. Goals are a perfect way to make self care exercises habitual.

There you go everyone. That's pretty much my ultimate guide to self care. I really flipping loved writing this post and I hope you learnt something new, or was just reminded to look after yourself. Oh and watch Queer Eye on Netflix. Also this post wasn't sponsored by Queer Eye I just love the show haha.
How do you practice self care? What's your favourite thing to watch on Netflix right now? x

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  1. i totally agree with you. self care is not just about splurging on cute items but been in a state of sober reflection and it surely does helps cos it works for me.

    Glowyshoe's blog

    1. I completely agree Hun, you're so right!! x

  2. It makes such a difference to our mental health. I consider it smart not selfish!!

  3. Self care is so important! Loved this post! Have a great day!
    xx- Nina

  4. I agree that self care is important! Simplify / declutter and sleep are so, so important. Unplugging and treating yourself are also great advice!

  5. Totally agree that self care is important!


  6. This was so interesting for reading. I really enjoy and I completely agree with everything that you wrote. Self care is most important in life of every person, because we are responsible for ourself.

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  7. I agree self care is super important in every day life. You have to put yourself first sometimes and really take the time to make sure that you are taking care of you. I haven't watched Queer Eye yet, but I will definitely try it out tonight!

    xx Avalon from Simply Avalon

  8. I always feel better when I take a bit of time for myself but it's easy to feel guilty about it when your to do list is huge! x


  9. I love Queer Eye as well. We just recently binged the most recent season. Self care really needs to be a priority for everyone especially in the world we live in right now.

    1. It's seriously one of my favourite shows haha and thank you! x

  10. I agree.
    Self care is so important.


  11. Estupendo post! Me encanta todo! Espero tu opinión en mi última entrada! Feliz día! ♡♡♡

  12. Beautiful and relaxing place.
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  13. Such a beautiful post! I love the way you edit your pictures <3


  14. Your pictures are all so pretty omg! self care is soo important. I'll be going back to school soon and I usually let go of my self care around that time. Have to try to do better at that time! Thanks for posting <3

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  15. I never watched Queer Eye, but everyone says it's very good.
    Taking care, thinking about ourselves both physically and mentally is extremely necessary.
    It's good to think and take care of others, but we can't forget about ourselves.
    I loved the post! :)


  16. Love this post! Self care really is so important, you can't look after anyone else unless you look after yourself!
    Raindrops of Sapphire

  17. Great tips for practing self-care.
    I agree that it is an important thing to do. It can be great as a way of prevending and minimazing depression, anxiety, work stress and other modern challenges.

  18. Here's what I think of self-care. Very important, easy to say, but really hard to do.

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  19. Such an interesting read. I agree, self care is very important. Thanks for sharing!


  20. Naaaw I love this post so much, and we all know I love a bit of Queer Eye! (Jonathan is the best)

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  21. Yes yes yes to this post!! Am important topic right here. Gotta take care of the self first before anything else.


  22. Totally agree with you! Self care is too important for our mental and physical health!
    xx Elisa
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  23. For me taking time for my skin care routine is self care, a short stop in my otherwise busy schedule.

    Linda, Libra, Loca: Beauty, Baby and Backpacking

  24. My favorite way to practice self-care has been going to yoga more often. I love how most instructors will start each class with an anecdote and a lesson to focus on during the practice.

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  25. Love these great findings! Thanks for sharing! Cheers!

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