How To Avoid Feeling Overwhelmed

Monday, 19 August 2019


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LET'S TALK ABOUT FEELING OVERWHELMED FOR A SECOND

As a person who thrives of action and being constantly busy, feeling overwhelmed isn't a common feeling for me but over the past few months (as I'm sure, if you've been following my blog for a while you'll know), I went through my first major exam season ever and oh my, was I overwhelmed. I realised through trudging through exam paper after exam paper that, not only does feeling overwhelmed completely and utterly suck, it can feel completely inevitable. Luckily there are ways to ensure that you don't get to the point where everything feels like it's all a bit too much.


It seems that the word 'busy' has become very romanticised in recent years. There appears to be this idea that if you're not awake all hours of the day, working constantly (9-5 is the bare minimum nowadays, sorry Dolly) and working visibly (because for some reason we also love to prove that we're working) then you're not doing enough. And that can make you feel just a tiny-ickle-bit overwhelmed. 
This is a feeling I have experienced so much in the past few months, after exam season ended all of my goals were ticked off and tidied away, everything I'd worked for was gone and now I was supposed to let it all go and relax for twelve weeks? It didn't seem possible. I'd hard-wired my brain to love the work and somehow enjoy the challenge, it just didn't seem possible to switch of and let it all go.

So for the most part, I haven't. You can still find my organising my life on Trello at eleven o'clock at night, fixing things that don't need fixing and making endless lists of things that don't really need to get done right now - but I'll do them anyway. But I also know that there needs to be a cut off point, a point where you log off, put down the book, shut of your brain (I'm still working on this one) and go to sleep.

Exams didn't burn me out (for the most part). I love being busy, I always have, and up until the last few days of exams (exam season was five weeks long), I had been okay and focused, 'in the zone' if you like. Then, in the last few days I realised I was completely burnt out. I was tired all the time, I could barely hold a proper conversation and I felt myself gravitating towards my bed. Fair to say, watching Love Island became a nightly struggle.

To me however, being burnt out is completely different to being overwhelmed. They're often linked, sure, but not the same. Being burnt out is the complete feeling of 'I have nothing left to give! Seriously Margaret, I'm done!' and 'Sleep is a gift from God.' Whereas feeling overwhelmed if more of a 'AAAARGH I've got so much to do and I don't know how to do any of it!' Featuring a lot of: *hugging Mum* and *messaging friends with too many crying emojis.*


Both happened during exams and it's fair to say I think I've learnt how to deal with (but mostly avoid) either of them happening for next exam season (ooh they just keep on comin' don't they?)
I consider myself to be an organised person (in the sense of lists and folders, not an immaculate bedroom,,, sorry Mum), and so organisation was a key tactic in not feeling overwhelmed. If I could spend twenty minutes or a few hours each week planning what to do, sorting piles of paper and organising my time, I would feel confident in what I was doing, knowing that this is the right thing to be doing and I was going to get it all done and it was going to fine.

Being organised meant that despite the overwhelming amount of work, I had the security of knowing it was all going to be done in a good amount of time and be done well. If you're not prepared or organised and have a huge pile of work to do, that pile is just going to sit there staring at you and you're going to run into the next room and binge watch a bad show on Netflix to avoid it at all costs.
Ignoring the problem isn't going to avoid that feeling of being overwhelmed. Just in case you hadn't realised.


Also, make sure you have a balance between your personal and professional lives. There seems to be so much content about 'balancing everything' with images of a perfectly zen middle-aged yoga teacher in Bali, sipping a green smoothie through an environmentally-friends straw and balancing plates of avocados with them, (the avocados representing personal, professional and every aspect of life. Duh.)
Anyway, unless you're that yoga teacher, balancing everything it hard and it often one of the main reason we feel overwhelmed. We've got to somehow work constantly but also be sipping colourful cocktails every Friday night and spend quality time with family playing Monopoly. Oh, and don't forget about a matching Instagram theme. God.
And like I said, if you're not that yoga teacher I'm thinking you haven't got this all down, and maybe it's why you're feeling overwhelmed (having written all of that out I'm starting to get a bit panicky myself sheesh). But at the end of the day it's your life, live it how the hell you want to live it. You want to spend the evening eating ice-cream and watching videos of baby penguins? Do it. You want to go to a cafe and drink overpriced Darjeeling tea? Do it.

Staying organised will help you stay in control. If you're not the spontaneous type and would feel guilty watching videos of baby penguins on a Tuesday night because you feel you should do something else you can do one of two things:
1. Think 'what the hell it's my life' and click onto that clip of the dancing turtle, 'it's my day I'm going to live it how I like.'
2. Think 'ah I really do have that big pile of stuff to do. I'll watch one more video and then do an hour of work to make up for it.'
Hey, I'm not judging you on your choice, it's your life. Just try not to bury your head in the sand and avoid the problem completely. Like I said, spend an hour of so every so often budgeting your time during those busy periods and you'll be strutting around school/the office/your kitchen like the legend you are.

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Ohhh I hope this helped! Basically try to stay organised and focused during those busy periods (like back to school) so you don't feel so overwhelmed about it all! How do you avoid feeling overwhelmed? What's your favourite thing to do on a Tuesday night? x

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Lots of love,
Grace
xox

61 comments:

  1. AAHHHH this is a whole-ass mood. It really is hard to get over the fact that exams completely destroyed me and after going through all that, sitting down and relaxing just feels too... easy? I feel like we'd been preparing ourselves for the whole GCSE experience for like 3 years as well so it felt weird that I found it just so hard - we're only human though and I feel like it's totally normal to feel so overwhelmed, even though no one seemed to talk about it or prepare us for it. I swear, at this point it feels like I'm just waiting for results day to come. Yay!

    (sorry for writing an essay)
    Gorgeous post!!

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    1. (you look gorgeous in all of these pictures by the way and I love the dress xx)

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    2. Ahhh oh wow thank you so much Thea you're the bestttt! xxx

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  2. I'm loving the dresses.
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  3. Sometimes it's hard to find the balance so it's great that you were aware enough to do that! xo, Biana

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  4. Great tips for avoiding feeling overwhelmed. For me feeling overwhelmed and burned out are also two different things, albeit somewhat similiar. You are right that being busy is often romantized but sometimes we actually need to stop working in order to work better.

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    1. Thank you so much for such a lovely comment Ivana! x

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  5. I think staying organized is key in managing all the busyness! But an honest assessment of why we're so busy is important to, and trimming out what is unnecessary can be much better for our mental health. Great tips!

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  6. This is such a great post. When I was at college I have same situation like you during exam season. Sometimes it can be exhausting, but after pass it you can't even remember. For me good organization is key, no matter at University, job or everyday life. Your photos are so beautiful. I really like them. You look amazing.

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    1. Thank you so much for such a lovely comment Hun!! x

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  7. I know that feeling too. Usually when I have stress, I just try to disconnect from everything for a little bit. And so far I haven't found a better place than wild nature (much better than fancy Bali yoga teachers or avocados :P) I also (well, since I live in Italy) eat something super nice, watch my favorite series and have a long sleep :)

    P.S. Your photos are very natural and cute!

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    1. Haha thank you so much for the lovely comment Hun I completely agree! x

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  8. I totally agree with you! Living a busy lifestyle is not necessary healthy or productive. It's simply just busy. I'm still learning how to balance, butI learn to understand that it is all about working smarter and prioritizing.

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  9. So many helpful tips! Work life balance is very important to me as also is taking time off from social media.

    xx Simone
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  10. Amazing suggestions darling, useful post! Love the pictures too! :)

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  11. Thanks for this insightful post! There needs to be balance between work and rest in my book. These are lovely pics!

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    1. Thank you so much, you're so kind my lovely! x

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  12. You make so many valid points here and I loved the tips you gave. You're absolutely right "busy" isn't always a good thing.

    lots of love, Miri
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  13. Que artigo sensacional, seu blog é muito bom mesmo, estou toda semana visitando e lendo seus artigos.

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  14. Such a beautiful read. Anyway, loving the vintage vibe of this dress on you dear.
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  15. Que artigo sensacional, seu blog é muito bom mesmo, estou toda semana visitando e lendo seus artigos.

    Parabéns!

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  16. Your dress is beautiful! Thanks for sharing!

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  17. Helpful. Overwhelm can lead to stress, anxiety, and burn out! Focusing your energy is a great place to start if you feel things spinning out of control.
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  18. I love the vintage vibe of this look x

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  19. I can understand feeling overwhelmed and it's sad sometimes that we live in a culture where if you don't take a snapshot of being 'busy' then some think that you aren't busy. Focus and positive surroundings always helps me.
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    1. I completely agree Hun, thank you so much for a lovely comment! x

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  20. You make a VERY good point about the word 'busy' having been romanticised over recent years! Happy to hear you've found ways to help yourself feel less overwhelmed babe :)

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    1. Thank you so much Hun for such a lovely comment!! x

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  21. That's a lovely summer dress on you! great pics! :)

    I agree, overwhelm and burnout are two very different things and need very different plans to tackle them! 5 weeks of exams sounds so stressful, glad that's over for you! :)

    Hope that your week is going well :)

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  22. That whole romantising busy is ridiculous! Modern world for ya!! Thank God the exams is over now. Being a teacher I know how stressful it can be. This post is very helpful, Grace. Thank you :-)

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    1. Haha I completely agree and thank you so much Hun!! x

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  23. You look so lovely! Loving the summer vibes! Sending so much love your way!
    xoxo, Vanessa
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  26. Such a lovely and inspirational post dear! Keep it up :-)

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  28. I work from home so definitely struggle with balance sometimes if I've got a lot on. I find it impossible to switch off after a busy period too. It's like my brain just wires itself to be fully active all the time x

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    1. I am completely the same Hun thank you for commenting! x

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  29. Balance something I struggle with all the time. I'm a bit of a perfectionist I have trouble letting things go. This was a great post. You made a lot of great points.

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  30. You looks very pretty and girlish <3 Regards:**

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